Everyone is talking about mindfulness and the beauty of the present moment, but I seem to be stuck in the past. It’s as if my brain has a broken rewind button, and wherever I am, whatever I am doing, mentally I am rehashing some old event. It could be something small (like when I wake up in the morning regretting my late night snack), or something more significant (like an ancient conversation with my father I wish I had handled differently). It’s like a cough that won’t go away, a persistent case of “if only I had known then what I know now…”
I know we all make mistakes, but what I can’t quite figure out is how to move past them. I don’t want to spend my whole life looking backwards, wallowing in the past. Any advice for how I can move forward?
Riddled with Regret
Dear Riddled with Regret,
Regrets are a fact of life, a byproduct of being human. We all make poor choices sometimes, then lie awake at night wondering what might have been. From the investment we shouldn’t have made to the love we foolishly pushed away—fully lived lives necessarily include decisions we might later live to regret.